Up in the Air

“How much does your life weigh?

Imagine for a second that you’re carrying a backpack. I want you to pack it with all the stuff that you have in your life… you can start with little things. The shelves, the drawers, the knick knacks.

Then you start adding larger stuff. Clothes, tabletop appliances, lamps, your TV… the backpack should be getting pretty heavy now.

You go bigger. Your couch, your car, your home… I want you to stuff if all into that backpack.

Now I want you to fill it with people. Start with casual acquaintances, friends of friends, folks round the office… and then you move into the people you trust with your most intimate secrets. Your brothers, your sisters, your children, your parents and finally your husband, your wife, your boyfriend, your girlfriend.

You get them into that backpack, feel the weight of that bag. Make no mistakes your relationships are the heaviest components in your life. All those negotiations and arguments and secrets, the compromises. The slower we move, the faster we die. Make no mistake, moving is living. Some animals were meant to carry each other to live symbiotically over a lifetime. Star crossed lover, monogamous swans. We are not swans.

We are sharks.”

The “Good Enough” Life

In order to clear my head before my exam, I have decided to write a post and I sure hope it helps.

In today’s issue of the Globe and Mail, I read an article called “The Secret of Happiness.” This article talks about how people should not set expectations because it leaves them disappointed and depressed. It claims that people should settle for the “good enough” life. However, on the contrary, it says people can have standards in order to do well.

Huh?

Call me an idiot if you must but where do you draw the line between an “expectation” and a “standard”?

Let’s say your standard is honesty. Doesn’t that mean you expect people to be honest?

Their example was that your standard may be working hard. It helps you do better but doesn’t mean that you will be let down when you don’t reach “perfection.” I would like to point out that each person has their own sense of “perfection” which is set by their standards. Perfection is usually a goal you’re trying to reach. Are they suggesting we shouldn’t set goals?

Can somebody please explain to me how this is actually supposed to work in the real life? It’s a great sounding concept but I don’t think it’s functional… Somebody please prove me wrong…

 

A little side note… I just read some of the comments on the article and people are saying how certain things are important but money isn’t. It’s unfortunate how the “things” they’re talking about actually require money. Therefore, I will post what I wrote on Twitter yesterday…

Dear “money can’t buy happiness,”

Maybe not… But I’d rather cry in a Ferrari.

Sincerely,

Try again

Aim For the Stars, Land Among the Clouds

This blog post is mostly for myself but you’re all welcome to also read it. In an attempt to keep my life on track, here are most of my dream jobs… I sometimes come up with new ones as I find out more about the world but these are dreams I’ve had for a while.

Publicist

Ari Gold (aka CEO of talent agency)

Film/TV/Music [Executive] Producer

Film Marketing

Concert Producer/Organizer

Wedding Planner

Event Planner

Entertainment Lawyer

Diplomat

The Smile of a Child

While walking from the SUB to the Sauder building today, I saw a girl smiling like the best thing had just happened to her. Our eyes met and with the same smile, she simply dropped her head and walked on with the same youthful glow. The purity in her smile was very refreshing and I couldn’t help but feel guilty for not being as delightful as she was. What happened to everyone’s childlike energy and positive mindset?

In today’s society, it seems like school, work, and the corporate world in general has sucked out all of the life from everyone. People walk around with a straight face, or sometimes even an angry face. Sometimes you cannot even see the person’s face because they are too busy texting. It’s so hard for people to meet each other these days because of the stupid thing called a cell phone. I know I have no right to say this because I am always texting away. However, if I am in the middle of a conversation, I am not going to leave it. Also, there is only one person I usually text and she is my best friend so be assured that she is more important and if she needs me, she’s got my attention via texting.

I dare everyone to stop for five minutes and just smile. Go back to when you were a child and had no worries in the world. Now tuck your phone away and go meet someone new. Give someone your full attention even though you’ve neglected them for the past few months. Sometimes those people you ignore the most are the ones that will make you the happiest. Show your youthful innocence and take on the world one step at a time.